You will get through this.
Life feels incredibly overwhelming right now, but you're a strong woman and you'll be just fine when all is said and done.
You could not have predicted the events that have unfolded. You could not have planned for them. What you can do is be yourself and continue to be the best stepmom and the best wife you know how to be.
>> Realize your stepchild will heal...eventually...and that you can only do so much.
>> Realize it has been your insight that has helped serve as a guide through this ordeal.
>> Realize your other stepchild needs love and attention and that one of your jobs on this earth is to provide it.
>> Realize that your place in this family is going to be tested even more now.
>> Realize that your marriage will withstand a bi-coastal relationship for a year.
>> Realize that you are much stronger than you give yourself credit for...and that you'll prove that to yourself this year.
>> Realize your mental and spiritual strength can move mountains.
>> Realize that this year you may feel like you're going to break. You can break down, but you can't and won't break.
>> Realize there is a reason and a purpose for everything.
Self, I need you to be strong this year. Everyone may not realize it, but they're going to depend on you this year to keep everything together. Make sure you have a good support system in place. Make sure you let others know how you're doing. Start to assemble 'team Erin.'
Make sure to take care of yourself on those evenings when you're all alone -- which will be often now. Paint your toenails, take a bath, go out to dinner with friends -- in fact, find more friends that can keep you busy.
Life is short. Don't forget to say I love you every day; try not to be resentful and remember what a strong woman you are.
Dearest self -- Let's refuse to let this break us.