5 Friends Every Stepmom Should Have

It really ripples my panties when I see articles on 5 friends every mom should have so I'm using my journalism skills for good and crafting my very own 5 Friends Every Stepmom Should Have list. Let me know if you agree/disagree/have any more suggestions.

5 Friends Every Stepmom Should Have

1. The veteran/new opposite stepmom. If you've been a stepmom for a few years, it helps to have a stepmom friend who just signed up for her membership to the stepmom club. Likewise if you're a new stepmom, it helps to have a friend who has been at it for a few-plus years. It's all about perspective. The newbies help the veterans remember what it was like to feel so scared and angry while the vets help the newbs understand that with some patience and strong character they will survive this.
   
2. The been through a divorce friend. I don't know how many stepmoms have been married before but I think if you've got a friend (mind you, that friend could be yourself) that has been through a divorce, then you can get a sense of the emotional drama that is the break up of a marriage. Not just a relationship, but a marriage.
   
3. The no-kids/stepkids of any kind friend. We all need a friend who can help us let our wicked witchy stepmom wigs down from time to time. Have the no-kid friend enforce a "no-talk-about-those-damn-stepkids" rule at drinks one night. You'll feel as refreshed as a morning daisy.
   
4. The "how in the hell do you deal with all of that" friend. It helps to have a friend that deals with a lot of turmoil in her family situation. I hate to sound like a cliched broken record but it puts things into perspective.
   
5. The "I'll be there for you to deliver hugs, martinis or whatever else you need" friend. These are the best kind of friend. No one's life is perfect and we may not always have the most supportive spouse or nicest stepkid. When that happens, we need the kind of friend(s) that will jump in and say they're there for you no matter what. Trust me. I've been dealing with some heavy emotional stuff lately and I've felt so incredibly lucky to have had my Stepmom friends and my pole friends jump to my aid to offer hugs, support, phone chats if necessary. It's helped me cry tears of joy instead of frustration and I needed that kind of emotional support.
   

Now, the rules about stepmom friends are there are no rules. (Channeling my inner Fight Club yo). You can, or might want, to have as many or as few of these friends as your little heart desires. The best part is that these friends can be bloggy friends. I've read some of the most sincere comments and suggestions and heartfelt encouragements from people whom I've never met in person.

So go. Go and make sure your personal pantry is stocked with these 5 friends and let me know if you have any other suggestions for a friend every stepmom should have.