In my 32 years on this planet, there have been two pieces of advice she's given me that have consistently proven to be true whether I wanted to agree or not:
- Always march to your own beat
- Without fail: Positive likes positive
Always march to your own beat wasn't typically hard to adhere to. I'd always been different -- in grade school I was the one with the divorced parents; in junior high, I was the new girl; in high school, I was the mouth-wired-shut freak and the mom-had-twins-when-I-was-a-senior girl. By my 30s, I'd turned the unique thing into a personal branding strategy.
Positive likes positive. That one was always harder to stick to. When everyone else was getting married and having babies, not miscarriages like me, trying to remember to be positive was like trying to remember the name of the 42nd pilgrim at the first Thanksgiving.
Despite my misgivings, my mom continued to extol the virtue of positive thinking.
After I decided to stop trying to have a baby, I went into overdrive. There was a void in my life that I needed fill...and boy did I fill it:
- I starting writing on my blog more
- I started Twittering
- I got a new (digital) job
- I started contributing more to a journalism association I'm a member of
- I figured out search engine optimization and how to improve a site with it
- I travelled to Austin, Paris and New Orleans...twice
- I networked...and networked some more
- I started pole dancing classes again, eating healthy and working out more
Somewhere in there I declared a truce with my infertility.
All of the positive changes I've made in my life have reaped positive rewards.
- I've lost 21 pounds in 2 months
- My digital hobby now has a client base
- I'm considered a "connector" who knows somebody who knows somebody...
- I'm writing two of my own blogs with another awesome opportunity on the horizon (more details when I'm able to share with everyone)
- I'm working on developing a program that could have a significant positive influence on people's careers
So Mom, you were right....again. Positive does like positive.