A letter to myself

Dear Self,

Congratulations on making it to another Thanksgiving. You're 32 years old and probably at the beginning of the best years of your life. I get the feeling major changes are heading your way in the next few years. Keep up the hard work and stop being so critical of yourself.

Instead of writing letters to yourself, you should be working right now. You've got enough stuff on your plate to make Martha Stewart jealous. Why is that by the way?

Oh yes, the baby void. You're replacing one obsession with another.

Your body couldn't get pregnant again so you decided to kick your mind into high gear and be great at something that wasn't parenting-related.

Self, never forget, you are great at a lot of things. You're an amazing wife, stepmom, daughter, sister and role model. You've done things in your life that some people only dream about. Do not ever lose sight of that.

Do not beat yourself up for discontinuing the infertility treatments. That decision helped propel you to make a lot of changes -- changes that have improved your life ten-fold.

While we're talking about improvements, please keep on track with the healthy lifestyle. You've lost 20 pounds so far and you're looking smokin' hot. Keep it up. You'll only look hotter.

Also, be sure to keep up with the pole dance classes. In addition to those amazing pipes dangling off your shoulder blades, you are a much sexier and calmer person when you pole. Be sure to show your husband a trick or two every once in a while. It'll keep him lusting after you for years.

As for your husband, continue to be kind and compassionate. Never forget you took a vow to love, honor and cherish. You also vowed to stick by his side through thick and thin. You married for life and married for love. You married to have a partner in the foxhole with you. Be sure you swallow your pride every once in a while and make sure you apologize. Haven't you figured out that's half the reason why you get in arguments.

Remember to not be a doormat and to stand up for those that cannot stand up for themselves.

Remember how you got to where you are and who helped you get there.

Remember to keep dancing even if no one is watching.

Remember to call your mom and your grandmother as often as possible.

Remember to love. Remember to live.

Love, You